Facing our Fears

We all have fears that keep us from doing what we really want. No matter how hard you try and do something the fear tends to stick with you. After reviewing Twyla Tharps exercise on Fear I have come to the conclusion that I have a fear of not being successful. Now that I am in college I take things more seriously. I focus on my grades more and make time to study as much as I can. In high school this was not something I was really concerned about as long as I did the work and was on my teachers good side I would get a good grade. So much has changed through out my first year of college that having this mindset does not work nearly as well as it did in High school. Having the fear of failing at something or thinking you are in capable of doing something leads to not being successful. This fear is a negative and positive fear for me. I believe that having this fear helps me motivate myself to keep up with my school work where at the same time it can be stressful during certain situations. But, as long as I stay on task and make the right decisions I am pretty confident that I will be successful in life.

Another fear that is big in my life is the fear of losing someone you love. I am only 18 years old and I know a ton of people have lost closed relatives or friends in their life. It is one of the hardest situations that I have ever seen anyone go through. I have lost close family members in the past but, I can never experience losing a close friend or sibling of mine. Having this fear always reminds me to make the right decisions and to think twice before saying something I do not mean. Before saying goodbye to someone I love I always give them a hug or kiss. Simply because you never know what could happen or  people tend to not appreciate what they have till it is gone.

I plan on facing these fears by continuing to do what I have been. I will continue to make my family proud by getting good grades and not slacking off I also plan on showing my appreciation towards my loved ones more. Although, these fears can keep me from doing something that my friends want me to do I always know deep down that they were the right decisions in the end.